Lisfranc injury

My son who is 20 and going to school out of state is scheduled to have surgery in a few days for lisfranc injury from playing rugby.. he doesn't want me to fly in to help him, he says "it's no big deal"... I think he's going to be in a lot more pain than he thinks, and he will need more help than he thinks. I don't want to be a "smother", and he does have roomates and friends who are more than willing to help out. What do you think, is it "no big deal" or should I go anyway? Any info on the surgery & recovery would be great to know.

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It would be rather presumptuous and inappropriate for me to advise as to whether you should or should not be there when or after your son has surgery, and I won't do that. Certainly all serious surgery has the potential and likelihood of causing pain, but the degree of pain is, to a great extent, less important than one's ability to deal with it, and , though I cannot speak for your son in that respect, I think that you might be a far better judge of that than I. A Lisfranc injury is a potentially serious one which often takes a great deal of time from which to recover, even when skillful surgery is performed. But, as I have attempted to state, the essence of your question is personal and social rather than medical, and I don't think that a specific answer from me on your issue would be particularly helpful in your or any similar individual case.