Congratulations on a great recovery. Keep wearing the splint at night and do your stretching exercises. While your bones supposedly are fused by six weeks, if it were me, I'd wear the splint for at least 12 weeks. My doctor didn't splint my toe, and I'm paying for it with a repeat hammertoe issue.
Regarding driving a clutch, please ask a friend to exchange their automatic shift car for your clutch with you for another month. A friend offered to do this for me and it made all the difference in pain and healing time. If you have an emergency stop and have to brake or accelerate quickly, research shows your response time can be affected because of your fear of pain and actual pain from pressing down so hard. It can also impact healing of bone and tissue if you have an emergency impact response.
Yes, you are expecting too much, especially with a houseful of kids, and if you had surgery on both feet at the same time. :-) (Did you do both feet at the same time?) I had a similar response that things weren't healing fast enough when I had my bunionectomy and hammertoe surgery on my right foot. The swelling didn't go down as quickly as I'd imagined. While I could walk on my foot after two months, I still had to keep it elevated and iced daily at night and even six months later, if I was too active, I would swell by the end of the day.
Take your time, wear the splint at night, borrow a friend's automatic shift car, and have a great 2012.
Author, Bunion Survivor's Guide to Successful Bunion Surgery and Recovery